These are stressful times indeed, and anything you can do to soothe the anxiety, lower your blood pressure and relax those clenched muscles is good. A vacation is even better. A beach may be best of all, according to one recent study at Seattle University, which found that just the sound of waves on a beach dropped blood pressure in older adults more than a lilting Mozart andante.
Visiting a place you’ve never been before can be exhilarating and enriching. But sometimes what you really need is the comfort of the familiar: a place you return to again and again for its relaxing rituals and lack of surprises. For my sister and her family, that place is beachside on Sanibel Island. She and her husband have been going there every February for more than 20 years. I go when I can and have come to love it for the same reasons they do: It’s a total stress-buster.
I met up with them and my niece last week at the Fort Myers Airport. The first part of the vacation ritual after arriving involves stocking up for the week ahead: a stop at the fish market for pristine yellowtail grouper, succulent shrimp, and shiny black-and-peach-colored stone crab claws. Next is Sun Harvest for the sweetest fresh squeezed orange juice and puckery key lime pie in the world. My sister has all the menus planned. Gotta have an orange-vanilla swirl ice cream cone for the road—those retro-childhood Dreamsicle flavors help set the mood.
When you drive over the causeway, high above the sparkling turquoise waters of the Gulf of Mexico, you can feel the stress start to let go. And when you arrive on the island and walk down to the powdery white sands at sunset, sandpipers skitter along, terns stand at attention along the water’s edge with their tufts of black feathers standing up on their heads like punk rockers, and pelicans glide and dive among the tide pools. You can feel your heart rate drop and the tightness begin to let go.
Shadows are long and the beach is tranquil at sunset
Depending on the wind in their topknots, the terns
look like balding men or punk rockers
Early morning shelling expeditions are another cherished ritual on Sanibel. It’s one of the best spots in North America, thanks to its unusual west-to-east direction. The women on the island wake up before sunrise and head out to the tide pools near the lighthouse in search of rare junonia, alphabet cone, eye and olive shells. Every morning the beach exhibits a different personality: one day crisp, clear and breezy with the full moon setting just as the sun rises; another morning sultry and thick with fog and the smell of low-tide decay, the gulls in a squawking, squealing feeding frenzy. One morning we see dozens of starfish and find a rare lacey murex; another morning the beach is inexplicably littered with jellyfish and there’s not a good shell in sight. The beach is always the same yet somehow, always different. That’s as much surprise as you get on Sanibel.
The stress lets go and joy replaces it!
The other rituals of life on the island aren’t very complicated: they include sampling the local restaurants for fried grouper sandwiches and coconut shrimp; shopping for sterling silver seashell charms and jeweled flip-flops; and sitting by the pool and reading a book. Plus firing up the grill, playing cards, and maybe watching a movie. I was ecstatic to have the chance to fully unwind and bask with my family in the familiar beauty and comfort of this lovely place again this year.
Precious time with my niece, Page, before she heads off to college in the fall
Tough economic times can help remind us of what is really important: It’s not the big house, the prestigious job and all the stuff we accumulate. It’s about precious time with loved ones, health, nature’s beauty and bounty—and maybe a little key lime pie for dessert.